One of the more important things that we at Dare To Dream proclaim is to vision for what is most important for you; to bring clarity to that which you want and need. Sometimes a client will come in with that understanding already, seeking help to implement that vision. A couple of months ago, a woman came to us with just such a direction. She was fired up because the passage of time was acutely felt. What became clear to us was that what she really needed (not just wanted) was a close and healing relationship with herself.
We met a few times, and then took a break, with the plan to connect and check in towards the end of February. We were not able to do that. Jaime Kuhle was tragically killed last Sunday while doing one of the things that she loved best: walking in nature.
There just happened to be a large Oak tree in her path. There just happened to have been a lot of rain in the preceding weeks. There just happened to be strong wind gusts that morning. There just happened to be a confluence of timing.
Her walk that morning was supposed to be a short one. When she didn’t return, her partner and 6 year old son went looking for her, and found her beneath a fallen Oak tree. I found out about this in the Santa Rosa Press Democrat the following day (click here to see the article).
One of the messages that death can deliver for all of us is the sense of urgency. We never know when something will happen. We take things for granted, especially that there will be enough time to do what it is that’s important. Meanwhile, we’re too busy with what’s urgent to tend to what’s important.
One of the great blessings being a coach is to be invited in and witness our clients as they wrestle with this dilemma: how to tend to the important while managing the urgent. In many ways, this is the basis of what we do, especially when we can add a soulful or spiritual quality to that search.
As Heidi and I continue our life path of seeking what is important, not just what is urgent, we continually tussle with that dilemma. There are two particular things we do to manage it: first, we seek and get support, particularly with each other, but with others too; second, we utilize our spiritual practice to illuminate the inner light, revealing what our spirit, or soul is calling for.
Jaime Kuhle was practicing her life in a similar manner. She felt the urgency and was trying to do something about it. We all have troubles and events to heal from. We all of to meet the needs of living in society. And some of us are able to embark on another, deeper journey. Jaime’s message is to not wait for the perfect timing of that journey; to not wait until we think we’re ready; to not wait.
My hope is that Jaime is continuing that journey in the next life. My hope is that her life inspires others, including her son, to continue to seek out what is most important and to utilize all available tools. My hope is that you who are reading this embark on that same journey, even when you don’t know the outcome, even when you don’t know how you’re going to get there. My hope is that we all hold the spirit of hope with the sense of accomplishing what is important.